12 BEST KEPT SECRETS in Marriage you MUST know_ Allyson Hyacintho

 12 BEST KEPT SECRETS in Marriage you MUST know!

                Secret One

Marriage is garbage IN, garbage OUT. This is the first lesson that begins to dawn on you about six months into your marriage. You'll  realise too soon that whatever effort and commitment you put into your marriage is the same output you will get out of it. Your marriage grows ONLY as much as you water it. 

                 Secret Two

No one can truly make you happy in marriage, so if it's happiness you are getting married to find I'm sorry you have jumped on the wrong ship. You will soon learn that you don't have control over your spouse's actions, the only actions you can control are yours. Your happiness will keep swinging on your partner's mood, temperament, and dispositions per time. Please come into marriage with your own self happiness and satisfaction, cos no matter how lovely your spouse is, he or she cannot make you happy all the time, they are not icecream.

                 Secret Three

What we call CHANGE is actually making adjustments to accommodate the other person, no one truly changes just like that. Be prepared and know that you cannot demand change from your spouse overnight, even with prayers and fasting. A partner who has been a master of his or her addictions and habits over many years cannot give up on them easily after 3 months of marriage, they would, but it will have to come through a process. In marriage you will learn to be patient with your spouse as they keep working on themselves to make things more accommodating for both of you.


                 Secret Four

A Kingdom marriage is a voluntary missionary work, I'm telling you. This is why I feel sorry for anyone forcing marriage or coercing someone to marry them. Never try to influence marriage, it is either they want to undertake the mission with you or not, if you force anyone to marry you, you'll keep forcing that person to stay married to you. There is a heavy price to pay in marriage guys, a very heavy one, some of which are going to be inconvenient and sacrificial. Marry someone who acknowledges you as their life assignment.

                 Secret Five

Many of the qualities and checklist you are looking for in a spouse are there in form of RAW MATERIALS, you will never find true satisfaction in your spouse if your gaze is set on the finished products. In marriage you will realise that many of the things you want your spouse to do, how you want them to look, etc, would have to be engineered by you. A perfect marriage is only an illusion. Actually, in marriage perfection is measured by your level of contribution to your spouse. 

                Secret Six

Every marriage comes with its own uniqueness, no two marriage are the same, nor have the same blueprint. You will be faced with Temptations to compare your spouse and your marriage to that of your neighbour, fight it, never do it, else that will be the genesis of the matters arising in your home. If two marriages do not have the same battles, why should their success be measured the same? Comparison is a thief, it will steal everything you have worked for in your marriage. 

To be continued...




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