𝗦𝗵𝗼𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗦𝗵𝗼𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗥𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗪𝗮𝘆.

Don't go crushing on the youth fellowship president and yet you have a bad or no culture of either a prayer or Study life.

Don't say of yourself "I’m not righteous enough to have God's lady or God's man.”

There are many things to deal with before starting a relationship;

- Build yourself now so much that the person whom you like will see it as an honor to be with you, this is not just because of a relationship but because of your life and self esteem.

- This intentionality about marriage has to begin with you, forget the lady/gentleman in view and the relationship and deal with why you find the Bible boring and all.

On our church telegram channel, we have loads of materials on bible study and prayers , it would almost seem as though you went to bible school.😀😀

- Don't think that by dating a spiritual person automatically your spiritual life will grow, every spiritual person is also looking for someone spiritual who can also be responsible for their own spiritual growth.

Many times while we were single, when I put a call across to my wife, she would busy my calls at the time to call back later because she was either praying, studying or probably broken in worship.

Again, the closer you get to spiritual persons the more you get to discover their flaws and realize that 90 percent of them would not want to spend the entire relationship time praying.

Sometimes, spiritual people can offend you up to a point that you may not want to even learn from them, times like that you will find my wife in the children church teaching them instead of sitting with me o 🤣🤣🤣


This is why some people after getting into a relationship with an extremely spiritual person, spend most of their time in hero worship that they ignore his/her misbehaviors and consistent ungodly life. My wife till this morning will always rebuke me when she isn't comfortable either with a behaviour or a certain attitude I put up.

You keep making excuses for him/her because you feel so lucky that you were the chosen one,  despite your unqualified qualities; now that right there is the wrong mindset to have.

Leave Relationship first, have you known who God will have you be in Christ and what he will have you do at this point in time? 

For example, in our church, The Pistis Place, we pray everyday 6am, 12am and 3am on mixlr app, these are the true opportunities you should look out for not relationship.

If you are not growing spiritually as a single, you won't grow when in a relationship, don't be spiritual in order to qualify for some dude/lady’s specification but build yourself so much that your spousal value is not just based on hips, boobs, handsomeness etc but on how you can support whoever chooses you or how you can really be a blessing to them.

Take time to understand that righteousness is a gift and see clearly who you are in Christ Jesus, take time to pray, do what is needful now.


Truth is, you don't have to feel the desire to read your Bible before you do and same thing with prayers. When in school, you don’t attend lectures or read your books because you want to but because it is a necessity if you want to be in that environment and succeed.

Even with a boring course, we chewed gum and put our legs in water in other to pass the course, this is no time not to feel like doing spiritual things, get up and make it work. You need to be mentored.

You have the Holy spirit on your inside, working in you to will and to do God's good pleasure. Forget shooting the shot at relationship first and focus on who you are in Christ.

Let him come and find you and think of how best he can partner with you in fulfilling the plan of God for your life.

Don't wait to be someone that is lucky to be chosen but rather build yourself- you are GOD'S CHOICE.

Hope this Blessed you? 



Japheth Joseph Grace Japheth

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